The rest of the night I kept quiet and didn’t tell Jake anything about what happened during the past 24 hours. I was still trying to process all of it. The next day, I woke up still very sick. I kept it to myself until that afternoon. During my lunch break, I called my best friend from college. I told her about our news and she got so excited. I was on the other side of the call shocked still. She asked me when I was going to tell Jake…I told her that I thought about it all morning and the night before. I couldn’t tell Jake until after Sunday. His family was coming in town that night, for the weekend. He is so close to his brother that I couldn’t risk him slipping it out on accident and they find out before I ever went to a doctor’s appointment. Julia couldn’t believe I was going to wait that long to tell him. Ha!
I am a huge planner of all things. Hence, why we came up with the five year plan. The rest of the day I was planning out how I was going to tell Jake this life changing news. I planned on buying him Mercer Myer’s book My Daddy and Me. I looked up when I would get it and found that it would be shipped to my house on Tuesday. I decided I was going to do a scavenger hunt and have Jake end up at what we decided would end up being a nursery one day. He would find the book, along with a onesie, on the guest bed and figure it out. Let’s just say, none of this happened…
I got home from work, that evening. Jake was already there and talking to his mom when I walked in the door. He decided to cook ground beef for them to have with nachos, when they arrived a little while later. I kissed and hugged him, changed clothes, and sat on the couch. For some reason, I was extremely tired. I tried to fight it and stay awake until his family got here. The smell from the beef, was making me feel so nauseous that I was hugging my stomach. I ended up falling asleep to keep from getting sick and him asking me what was wrong. I woke up 20 minutes later and not long after his family walked in the door. We had supper but I didn’t eat much because of the smell. I made it through Friday with no speculation from anyone!
Saturday, we decided to go to town and show them around Batesville. We stopped for lunch at a local Mexican restaurant. I ate the chips and salsa like crazy. Nobody noticed. Our food came out and all I could smell was the beef from everybody’s food. I suffered and ate about ¾ of my meal. I didn’t want them to know. We then went to Tractor Supply for them to look around. I do not know how people can just go in just to look around. But we did. When we walked in, I told them I had to use the restroom, when I really didn’t have to. I was in there probably 15 minutes sick, from lunch. I walked out and Jake was trying on some jeans. His mom was showing me baby onesies with tractors on it. I just shook my head that it was cute and walked on. His dad came around to me and asked if I was tired. I told him I was fine. It was raining all day so I told him it was the the rain and the cloudy day must be making me tired. I said it was the perfect napping weather. He went for it! He said he was tired too. Whew! I walked over to the mirror and looked at myself. I looked awful! I walked around to wake myself up and even went to bathroom to sprinkle water on my face.
I got through the rest of the day fine, until we had supper that night. I didn’t feel sick. We had fish and fries. I ate half of my food and gave Jake the rest. While we were finishing up, I started to load the dishwasher, when my mother-in-law asked if I was ok. I looked at her confused and said I was fine. She thought I may be getting sick, because I didn’t eat much during the day. It seemed like everyone in the country was getting the flu, and my MIL had just gotten over it a couple days before they came to town. So I blamed it on that! I told her I felt fine but hopefully wasn’t getting what was going around. She agreed and fell for it! I made it through night two!!
Sunday, we went to church and for lunch, they wanted to go back and try out the Mexican buffet we told them about. (WHY did we tell them about that?!) We went and I probably ate ¼ of my lunch. I just couldn’t get past the smell of the beef again! Nobody said anything. We came home, they packed up, I locked myself in the bathroom getting sick without them knowing, and then they left. I finally decided I couldn’t wait until the book came Tuesday, to tell Jake. He was going to figure it out, as much as I was getting sick.
About 30 minutes after everybody left, we were sitting on the couch and I asked Jake to close his eyes while I went to get a surprise for him. I had all of the pregnancy tests in a small “lady” bag, all weekend. I got it and put it in his lap. He looked at the bag confused until I told him to open it. He looked at the tests and laughed like maybe there is something under them. He read the tests and just smiled. I started crying and didn’t know why. I guess because I was still processing it. I told him everything and how I suffered through the beef smell all weekend and couldn’t take it any longer. He just looked at me asking several times, “I’m going to be a daddy?” I told him yes. Then I asked if he was really happy or scared and just didn’t want to tell me. I told him it was ok if he’s really more scared than excited because I was still trying to process what all happened during the past few days. He looked at me confused, rubbed my tummy smiling, and then took my hands and prayed over the baby and me. I was a sobbing mess by the end of the prayer!
I told him I didn’t have an appointment for 2 more weeks and didn’t want to tell anybody until after that. I asked if he was ok with waiting until Easter to tell people. That was a month away! He looked at me in shock that I wanted to wait that long. I told him about my fear of miscarrying and that I didn’t want to give them good news until I knew we were in the clear. He asked if we could tell our closest friends, from church, so he could have at least two people for us to talk to. And so he wouldn’t let it slip up to the wrong person. I agreed and after our Dave Ramsey class, at church, we went to eat supper with them.
It isn’t unnormal for us to eat supper with them on Sunday nights. What was unnormal was the fact that we asked to eat anywhere but Mexican. Erin speculated something was up but couldn’t figure it out. When we got there, I told them I had something for them to show how much their friendship means to us. They looked at us confused as they opened it. Erin pulled out a onesie and jumped back smiling at me. I started crying again. She and Matthew congratulated us and got excited. We thanked them, answered all their questions, and then asked that they not tell anybody until we tell them that all was ok, on Easter. Matthew laughed and said good luck because it was going to be hard for Erin to keep this secret. She promised to keep her mouth shut when talking out loud. We made it through the weekend, I told Jake, we told only one set of friends from church to help us keep this secret, and nobody else found out! We were overjoyed about this news and I was thrilled that I finally told Jake!
Throughout the entire month, we went through phone calls trying to watch everything we said, keeping our phones faced down in case Erin and Matthew texted us about baby stuff (my mom almost saw one that Erin sent me and I panicked), stared each other down when we were around family, and talked about the pregnancy like crazy when it was just the two of us.
We made it through the month with nobody finding out and Erin and Matthew only talking to us about it by text, phone calls, and when we were away from everybody. I was happy everything was going according to plan!
Part 3 will be up by the end of the week. (This will be about what the doctor revealed and how we told our families!)